Have you ever been told not to cry or else you would get beat more or that you were too sensitive when you cried?
Have you ever judged yourself thinking there’s something wrong with you when you cried?
Have you ever wanted to cry but couldn’t or just cried silently the so-called ‘inner crying’ for fear of being judged and wronged?
How many of you were taught that it’s weak to cry in the societies, especially for men?
How many of you were taught to suck it up, macho up and march on to be positive and strong?
How many of you ended up no longer feeling how you felt, completely out of touch with your bodies and not being able to speak up when you wanted to speak?
I used to laugh all the time many yeas ago thinking I was so happy and loveable to all people
Even when someone shared their sad news, I just laughed it off not knowing what to say when I meant to feel for them, then got angry at myself wondering why I couldn’t respond appropriately
Laughing things off became my automatic coping mechanism to cover up all pain
That was how out of touch I was with me
I have found myself being able to feel deeply and cry since I started to heal myself
What I wasn’t willing or able to feel in the past
What if there is nothing wrong with crying?
What if tears are what get you
To feel and express your own pain
For your self-healing
So you can feel others’ pain and
Allow them to be
For their self-healing?
What if tears are what give you
Even more strength and courage
To keep going and move forward
For total receiving and allowance of you
Rather than just shoving them down
Withering and dying inside?
What if when someone or a man cries,
That very vulnerability is
The most courageous and
Beautiful thing about them
That we have the honor
To witness and hold space for?
What if tears get you
To connect with yourself and others
From heart to heart, soul to soul
Beyond the capabilities of your head
When something about them
Deeply touches your heart and soul?
What if tears are what remind us
This is what it feels like to be human?
To be heart-centred
To be compassionate
To be kind
To be gentle
What if tears are the sacred healing water
The gift from God
That you are created to be
To cleanse your soul?
Allow them to shed and drop
No matter who you are
What you are in this world
For the rainbow and
Bright, magnificent light
Of your soul
To shine again
You are loving
You are caring
You are strong
You are courageous
You are authentic
With your tears and vulnerability
You are infinite awareness
Regardless of your tears and vulnerability
As an infinite being you are created to be
You got this. One step at a time.