If you were never heard,
If you were never allowed
To express yourself,
Anger and frustration would accumulate
You might even feel wrong and unworthy
For even getting angry and frustrated
Thinking you gotta pull yourself together
You gotta keep yourself in check
Finding every way to keep it in order
Yet the more you try to change it,
The angrier and more frustrated you’d feel,
The more you would want to explode
And can’t seem to explode,
The more you’d feel stuck
And can’t seem to get anywhere
Does that resonate?
Healing, changing and transformation
Is not about having to be a certain way
Or having to be a certain result
In order to be ok
It is about acknowledging and allowing
Receiving and having
The deepest compassion for
Who you are
What you are
Where you are
However you feel
Whatever you think
Whatever you do or don’t do
Without the need to be perfect
What if
You are ok right now
You are loved right now
You are accepted right now
For whoever you are
For whatever you are
From wherever you are
With warts and all?
You have always been
And always will be
Proof?
You are here
You are a gift from God
You are a blessing from God
You are a miracle from God
Your are the precious child of God
You are the spark of God
You are the masterpiece of God
With a life and everything
That God created you to be
If it took you tens of years and more
To learn all the patterns and habits
That disempower you,
Then it takes a while to unlearn them
To teach you different
To choose you different
It is ok
It is normal
It is part of the process
If you slip into the patterns
Along the way
While learning to change them
What matters is your effort
What matters is never giving up
What matters is to be aware
What matters is to keep choosing
Over and over again
Your lovingness to you
Your caring for you
Your kindness to you
Your compassion for you
Your acknowledgment of you
Especially when that happens
Without making you wrong for it
That is true healing
That is true change
That is true transformation
From within right there
It is a process
It is a journey
It is a practice
It is an ongoing growth
Give you time and space
Give you gentleness and tenderness
That you deserve
When you feel uncomfortable feelings
Like anger, sadness, or fears
If you don’t know what tools to use yet
Remember to breathe deeply through them
Give them space with your breath
Allow yourself to feel them with your breath
You are allowed and worthy
To feel and express them
Be messy
Be out of order
Be out of check
Without judgments of you
In order to fall into place
That is right and perfect for you
All you need is a safe space
To allow you to be,
If anyone does anything
To make you feel otherwise
For it
Leave
Walk away
Adios, goodbye
Speak up
Whatever you need to do
To honor you
Each time you choose you,
You will know and embody
What it feels like
To be worthy
To be heard
To express yourself
Without any wrongness of you
You gain more of you
Your space
Your time
Your energy
Your life
Your freedom
Your choice
Your worth
You are worthy of it all
Love
Support
Acceptance
Allowance
Receiving
Joy
Peace
Ease
Abundance
Greatness
Talents and gifts
With warts and all
Without having to be perfect
Without having to please anybody
Without having to be anyone else
Other than YOU
Your magnificent spark
Of the entire Universe
You got this. One step at a time.
- Phuong
